I am amazed at the amount of grown women now days who are "boy crazy!" It's one thing to see it on tv but when you see a real live 30-40 year old married, woman look at Justin Bieber, Taylor Lautner or Robert Pattinson and go gaga, it just kind of gives me that feeling of nausea right before you throw up! It's absolutely disgusting! I want to go shake them and tell them to grow up! What's even more disturbing is that these women have daughters and they take them to stand in line to see Justin Bieber and encourage the madness at a young age. And we wonder why our little girls are not staying little girls for long. At age 8-12 I was having a blast running around outside and playing catch with my brothers and I only thought of boys as someone to play softball with. Now little girls are of that age group are at the salon having their hair streaked and styled then off for mani's and pedi's, their Mom's are sitting right there with them reading her copy of US!
Yes, I know it does sound as if I've gone on a rabbit trail but I haven't. This post is about marriage! The point I'm trying to make is this. So many women have become so wrapped up in the lives of stars and movies and tv shows that they are losing touch with reality! They're watching these shows and becoming increasingly dissatisfied with their own marriages so they live vicariously through the 9 and 12 year olds. Now before you roll your eyes, I have to be honest with you. I was one of them! Not the Mom but one of the women. Which is how I know exactly what kind of impact Hollywood can have on a marriage. The good thing is I had only been married three or four years when I started to realize what was happening. Thank God I a woke up! My husband and I got rid of all our movies and stored the monitor away for a solid year or more because of the damage it was doing to our marriage. I had started looking at the lives of these people in movies especially the male stars and thinking, "I wish my husband was romantic like that..." "I wish my husband would treat me like he treats here..." if you say that the movies you watch have no affect on how you look at your marriage then you're in denial or your just plain blind!
Movies and tv shows are destroying marriages and giving kids false expectations of life and what "real" relationships are supposed to be like. Why do you think teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are so prevalent today? Teens and adults alike are sleeping around at an alarming rate and we sit back and say that tv has not affected anything. My husband has the unique job of talking to kids and teens everyday and telling them about the dangers of that kind of lifestyle (Reality Check Inc out of Northwest Arkansas). We are turning a blind eye to the affects Hollywood is having on our lives and we need to wake up before it's too late.
This brings me to the second rule in our little game. Make sure you're sitting down for this one! Turn off the tv for a week! Yes, you heard me right. No tv or movies for a solid week not even so much as a Star or Us magazine. Put it all away and focus on your marriage! So, on top of erasing negative thoughts with three positive things about your husband, you are adding the NO TV rule as well. I know, you think you'll go into withdrawals but you won't! I promise you will survive and your marriage will be better for it. Who knows you may completely quit watching movies as a result. Once you stop putting a non realistic view of marriage and relationships and get back in touch with reality you'll be amazed at how deceived you were, believe me, I've been there!
So how about it? Are you up for the challenge? You can do it! Just remember it takes time. You won't have a great marriage overnight, it took a while to get to the point you might be at now, so it'll take some time to get on the road to recovery and reconstruction. You're not just fixing your marriage, you have to retrain your brain to think realistically again. Anything worth doing is going to be a challenge!
Don't forget that at the end of each week you're supposed to sit down and write down as many positive things about your hubby that you can think of. The less time you spend watching movies and trying to "fix" your husbands issues the better your marriage will get, it worked for us!
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