During my morning "blog hour" I read one of my favorite blogs that always inspires me to think about things in a new way. It was about marriage and since marriage is my passion, instead of just going into "scan mode" I read every word! I was so inspired that I decided to post a new blog myself! The author spoke of marriage as two separate individuals living their own lives. There were a lot of great points, but my mind kept going back to the scriptures I've read all of my life and a thought struck me. "God is a romantic!" You see, I believe all scripture is inspired by Him, which means that there is nothing in His word that was not put there by Him! Here are a list of romantic stories in the Bible... Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Rachel, Ruth and Boaz... oh and don't forget my favorite, the Song of Solomon! :-) God inspired all of these!!!
But it's these passages that disagree with the "two separate" people idea the most and further instills in my mind that God is the ultimate romantic! Matthew 19:6 "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Ephesians 5:31 "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh." None of these scriptures lead me to believe that when a man and woman pledge their lives to each other they continue to walk their separate ways. Both speak of a man leaving the road he was on (...leave his father and mother...) and taking his wife with him to start a new path together (...and shall be joined unto his wife...).
When I married Ben I didn't cease to be me, I changed my name and embraced the new me! I married a man that encouraged me to do things that I never would have done had I continued to walk alone... I didn't have the guts! To tell you the truth, I didn't have any real aspirations before I married. The things I have accomplished have been because my man told me I could! I do NOT like getting up in front of people and speaking but Ben said "babe you'd be a great teacher!" So, when asked to speak to a group of women, I always swallow my fear and memorize my notes! I would never have dreamed I could do that!
Ever read about the Proverbs 31 woman?! She definitely is not lost in her husbands shadow, and neither did she overshadow him. They compliment each other! Proverbs 31:23 "Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land." They both have merit!
When Ben decided to take a decrease in pay and change career paths to realize his dream of teaching I said "go for it honey!" I learned to be thrifty with his meager salary, but we were so happy that when his job downsized and he was let go I was almost depressed because I had come to love his job as much as he did! Now he's realizing another dream of his, teaching Psychology at a Bible College and I'm enjoying the ride! My husband is at his best when he's in front of young people teaching and I support him with all my heart. He in turn supports my passions... I'm sure he doesn't really enjoy hearing me talk about pregnancy, labor and birth all the time, but he shares in the excitement I feel when I've got my nose in my text books learning new things about the female reproductive system... thankfully he's as intrigued with Physiology as I am!
Yes, Ben and I are two separate individuals but neither of us is walking alone and neither of us want to! You see, God joined us together and now we walk side by side each of us supporting the other. I love it that Paul says that we become "one flesh". We no longer just have our own interests in mind but the interests of the other. I've not put my dreams on hold because I "have" to stay home with the girls, but rather, I am waiting for God's perfect timing in realizing those dreams. I am going to be a birth Doula, maybe not now but when the time is right. For now I am hitting the books hard and honing my skills, so that when it's time I will be the best I possibly can and Ben is my constant encourager!
I enjoy married life. I love having a companion, friend, encourager and lover... ;-) Hey, God meant for us to love making love! lol That's why Song of Solomon is my favorite love story in the Bible! Most of all I love married life because I now I don't ever have to walk alone and romantic songs are only depressing when we're apart...
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