In my last post we talked about being positive and looking at life with “the glass is half full” mindset. Believe me this will go a long way in regaining your guys attention. Not that you ever lost his attraction, maybe he’s just been looking for that sweet girl he married!
Let’s be honest ladies. None of us are that carefree girl we were when we snagged our handsome man and that’s natural and healthy. The healthy part being, that we’ve matured (hopefully), but becoming uptight and just plain ol’ no fun however is not healthy for our marriage. This leads me to my next point.
BE SPONTANIOUS!!! Whether it’s in the bedroom or maybe it’s just dropping your mop and forgetting the house is a mess and running to Mc Donald’s for Hot Fudge Sundays with the family! This is the thing I struggle with the most.
Since my husband is a psychology teacher he has little personality tests lying around. While flying to California last week for a wedding, he pulled one out and asked me some questions. Come to find out I have all but one of the traits for the personality disorder Obsessive Compulsive (OCD). So as you can imagine, it’s really hard for me to just drop things and run. Especially when it comes to my house! I can’t handle a mess, and getting used to living with four very messy daughters has been quite a challenge for me. I don’t always handle things the way I should and that has caused some strife in our marriage. My husband is not a messy, and leads more towards the OCD but he’s also laid back and is VERY good at just leaving it all and coming back to start again refreshed. He’s been good for me! I am a work in progress!
Since my husband is a psychology teacher he has little personality tests lying around. While flying to California last week for a wedding, he pulled one out and asked me some questions. Come to find out I have all but one of the traits for the personality disorder Obsessive Compulsive (OCD). So as you can imagine, it’s really hard for me to just drop things and run. Especially when it comes to my house! I can’t handle a mess, and getting used to living with four very messy daughters has been quite a challenge for me. I don’t always handle things the way I should and that has caused some strife in our marriage. My husband is not a messy, and leads more towards the OCD but he’s also laid back and is VERY good at just leaving it all and coming back to start again refreshed. He’s been good for me! I am a work in progress!
Being spontaneous in the bedroom is a little harder for me as it is for a lot of women. When I have a million things on my mind, it’s hard to think sexy thoughts! I used to get aggravated at Ben when he’d get in a bad mood when he hadn’t “gotten any” lately, it was a mystery to my why on earth he reacted that way. To my shock and surprise in the past year or so I’ve found that Ben isn’t the only one who gets grouchy when they aren’t “getting any”! I’ve paid attention and have learned that we are more likely to pick fights and get grouchy with each other when we aren’t having sex regularly. Go figure!!! I’ve found that sex is vitally important to our marriage, so I’ve adjusted the way I think about it. I make it a habit to put on sexy underwear, and about every two or three months I go online and buy myself a sexy nighty. Sometimes I buy things that I like and sometimes it’s something Ben will like. It’s amazing how spontaneous you can feel when you’re feeling sexy!
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